What Is Important About Twin Fascination Twinships can tell us about close relationships. Twins have been considered a source of fascination and wonder / repulsion and fear since the beginning of recorded history. Mythology, religion, literature, film, and art use twins to represent magical powers of closeness and the opposite—discord and rage. It was not …
Category Archives: Parenting Twins
Identity Real Estate in Twins
Identity Real Estate in Twins A Consequence of Inadequate Parenting. A widely believed cultural fantasy is that all twins get along and love each other. The real truth is that not all twins are alike. Twins who hold on to loving and needing each other desperately share a deep enmeshment because parenting has been very …
The Wedding Dress
A parable for twins and parents. Last night I was working with my long-running twin estrangement group. We were discussing the lengthy journey of truly separating from your twin, which of course can be an ongoing psychological problem. The psychological separation process starts with the awareness that you are a twin as a child, to …
Attentive Parenting
Attentive Parenting The foundation for trust in the adult lives of twins. Popular thinking and cultural mores about being a twin or parenting twins are very idealistic. Twins on the whole often feel misunderstood when people ask, “How is your twin?” And when twins respond in an indifferent or negative tone, onlookers ask, “Why don’t …
Teenage Twin Issues
All teenagers have difficulty separating from their families and finding and establishing a separate identity or sense of uniqueness, making adolescence a time that is very turbulent for all teens and their parents. But for twins and their families, the teenage years are truly double trouble. Teenage twins can be hypersensitive about everything that is …
How Parents Can Limit Twin Fighting
Twins bring joy and a sense of specialness to a family. Still – even with the special rewards that twins create – raising twins is hard and frustrating. Sometimes parents feel overwhelmed, hopeless and confused by twin fighting. Well-meaning and attuned parents wonder, “how can I help my children stop fighting with each other? When …
Advice for raising emotionally happy and healthy twins and triplets
With the increased use of fertility drugs, it is no longer uncommon to have twins and triplets. However, it can be stressful to raise multiples. As a parent of multiples, you have to be efficient and organized with your time in order to care for your children and save your sanity. What’s more, it is …
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Reduce Competition: Expect Your Twin Children to Develop Differently
It is normal and expectable to have twins look and act differently. Actually, differences will evolve naturally. The latest genetic research shows how differently twins can develop even when they are identical. And parents relate differently to each child, which creates emotional differences. Twins develop their own relationship, which also makes them unique and interested …
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