Theory and research based on the experiences of adult twins
Twinship Sometimes Feels Like a Scary Roller Coaster Ride Insight into extreme anger, loneliness, and longing for twin closeness I have devoted many hours, days, weeks, and years trying to understand the love and loyalty, rage, guilt, and humiliation that twins have for one another. Fighting and even estrangement can make a twin relationship unbearable. …
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Twins Can Teach Non-Twins The power and comfort of closeness. Throughout history, twins have been considered to possess special magical powers. In our culture, the twin relationship is idealized as a perfect mirroring experience that builds confidence and security throughout life. Outdated and fantastical, this myth that needs to be dispelled and evaporated into outer …
The Legacy of Twinship When the life stories of all the adult twins who spoke with me are considered together, some “truths” become evident. This chapter will summarize the most important findings of this study. No one finding is more important than another. Not All Twins Are Alike The most obvious finding of this research …
What Is Important About Twin Fascination Twinships can tell us about close relationships. Twins have been considered a source of fascination and wonder / repulsion and fear since the beginning of recorded history. Mythology, religion, literature, film, and art use twins to represent magical powers of closeness and the opposite—discord and rage. It was not …
Identity Real Estate in Twins A Consequence of Inadequate Parenting. A widely believed cultural fantasy is that all twins get along and love each other. The real truth is that not all twins are alike. Twins who hold on to loving and needing each other desperately share a deep enmeshment because parenting has been very …
A parable for twins and parents. Last night I was working with my long-running twin estrangement group. We were discussing the lengthy journey of truly separating from your twin, which of course can be an ongoing psychological problem. The psychological separation process starts with the awareness that you are a twin as a child, to …
The Indelible Twin Identity When have I done enough for my twin? When do I take my turn? I hear these questions in one way or another every time I talk to a twin. And quite frankly I have always wondered and worried if I could have helped my twin more. Or, “Why didn’t she …
Getting over your feelings related to missing your twin is a long uphill journey. Sadness, depression, anxiety and anger are related to missing your attachment to your twin. Everyone close to you will most likely suffer when you feel like you need your twin, or if you and your twin are at odds or at …
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