Books by Dr. Barbara Klein


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Routledge (May 8, 2017), 198 pages


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Twin Dilemmas - Changing Relationships Throughout the Life Span

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The development of how twins relate to each other and their single partners is explored through life stories and clinical examples in this telling study of twin interconnections. While the quality of a nurturing family life is crucial, Dr. Klein has found there are often issues with separation anxiety, loneliness, competition with each other, and finding friendships outside of twinship. When twin lives are entwined because of inadequate parenting and estrangement, twin loss is possible and traumatic, creating a crippling fear of expansiveness―an inability to be yourself. Therapists and twins seeking an understanding of twin relationships will find this clinically compelling book a valuable resource.

A twin’s relationships are forever complicated. Barbara’s gifted mind combines poignant twin narratives with counseling insights, forming vivid depictions of the certain but changing struggles twins face over a lifetime. Twins/Multiples are rising in number, yet this deepest of human connections is still misguided by ill-equipped parents and support specialists, causing paralyzing outcomes. Twins will be grateful beneficiaries of ditching the cultural cuteness obsession for twins and assuming genuine responsibility for each twin’s uniqueness.
Lynn Kraus Boberg
BA in psychology and K-8 education, identical twin

Published by:
Praeger (August 18, 2015), 156 pages


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The Challenges of Gifted Children:

Empowering Parents to Maximize Their Child's Potential

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  • Educating and raising gifted children presents highly specific challenges. This book explains how parents can learn to optimize their child's potential and work with schools, spouses, friends, and specialists to create a nurturing and stable life.
  • Details how to find a school that satisfies a child's particular needs
  • Presents the ideas, thoughts, and feelings of parents in words that other parents with gifted children can identify with and understand
  • Provides information on the over-excitabilities and intensities of gifted children presented in a practical, straightforward way that helps the reader apply these concepts in actual strategies in their everyday lives
  • Identifies specific problems of parents with gifted children and outlines effective solutions to these challenges
Barbara's book is an authentic review of her observations and understanding of gifted children through her career as an educator and a private psychologist. Her book is written for educators who often know very little about gifted children – their academic and social/emotional needs. It is easy to read, not filled with jargon and acronyms but clearly and simply stated for anyone to read. It can speak to parents who want to know about their gifted children. The chapters are full of scenarios and real situations that help the reader understand gifted children better. As a long time gifted educator, I would recommend Dr. Klein's book is perfect for anyone who wants to know more about gifted children and how to help them reach their full potential. I found myself nodding and agreeing with all of the information in the book and thinking it would be a great first read for someone who is new to giftedness in children.
Dr. Barbara Branch
Executive Director, California Association for the Gifted

Routledge (May 4, 2012), 219 pages


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Alone in the Mirror: Twins in Therapy

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Alone in the Mirror: Twins in Therapy chronicles the triumphs and struggles of twins as they separate from one another and find their individuality in a world of non twins.

The text is grounded in issues of attachment and intimacy, and is highlighted by Dr. Barbara Klein’s scholarly research, clinical experiences with twins in therapy, and her own identity struggles as a twin, all of which allow her to present insights into the rare, complicated, and misunderstood twin identity.

She presents psychologically-focused real life histories, which demonstrate how childhood experiences shape the twin attachment and individual development, and she describes implications for twins in therapy, their therapists, and parents of twins. Unique to this book are effective therapeutic practices, developed specifically for twins, and designed to raise the consciousness of parents as well.

Readers will find these practices and the insights within invaluable, whether they use them to communicate with twin patients, family members, or if they are part of a twinship themselves.

Dr. Barbara Klein, an excellent guide to the world of twins, showcases the dynamic challenges facing twins as they oscillate between feeling profoundly connected to and estranged from their twin partner. Reading Alone in the Mirror will irrevocably change the way readers–be they twins, nontwins, or clinicians–think of twins.
Stuart A. Wolman, MD, PhD,
Training and Supervising Analyst, Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis; Clinical Faculty, UCLA Department of Psychiatry, California, USA

AMACOM (October 12, 2006), 252 pages


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Raising Gifted Kids:

Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Exceptional Child Thrive

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While it can be rewarding to raise an extremely bright child -- quick, curious, sensitive, and introspective -- it's also a daunting challenge. Parents need insight into their own motivations (as well as those of their children), and the courage and ability to make tough decisions about their child's development.

Raising Gifted Kids will help parents understand and cope with the obstacles they face in raising a gifted child, and help them make the best choices for their son's or daughter's growth and happiness. This upbeat and practical book reveals how parents can:

  • help develop their child's potential and self-esteem without pressuring them
  • plan their child's education
  • work optimally with schools and teachers
  • recognize and prevent problems
  • solve family conflicts over parenting issues
  • avoid the dangers of living vicariously through their child's accomplishments
  • and much moreFilled with proven solutions to the unique challenges of raising gifted kids, this book is the powerful yet accessible resource parents have long wished for.
This is an excellent resource for parents of gifted children. Klein provides some great examples of the errors parents too often make when dealing with gifted children such as over emphasizing the child's one area of intelligence, and she provides examples so that parents can avoid these mistakes. She has an excellent section on the traps or myths society has about what giftedness means, especially within the educational system and how to address or avoid these. She provides an excellent chapter on how to talk to your gifted child so that the conversation is open, honest, and real. Finally, she emphasizes the need for balance and variety for gifted children and how to achieve that.
Texas Rose - Amazon reviewer

Praeger (February 28, 2003), 160 pages


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Not All Twins Are Alike:

Psychological Profiles of Twinship


Even twins are unique. Most people idealize twins, fantasizing a close, perpetually loving relationship. Yet Klein, herself an identical twin, demonstrates that twins have complicated and intense relationships that range from over-identification or excessive closeness to profound estrangement and conflict. Most twins who are raised as individuals deal with the significant emotional pain of separation in adolescence or young adulthood, yet as mature adults can come to love and respect each other as individuals.

As Klein makes clear, the parenting that twins receive as infants and young children affects the relationships that they have with one another and with the world they choose to function in. Because parenting is a critical determinant of psychological well-being, it should be treated as a serious but manageable challenge. This book is a must-read for twins, their parents, and scholars, students, and other researchers and professionals dealing with mental health and child development.

This is probably the quickest read (with the most meat on its bones) in regards to twin studies and what twins can tell us about the human condition. This book is a must have for anyone who is a twin (like myself) or is interested in the complex psychological profiles that manifest from the primary bonding of twins, fraternal or mirror image identical. This book is my primary resource, outside of my own personal experience as a fraternal male twin of a male/female pairing, that I use when writing about twin siblings in fiction
Drew VanDyke

Praeger (August 12, 1993), 176 pages


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Forgotten Memories:

A Journey Out of the Darkness of Sexual Abuse


During psychoanalysis as a young adult, the author was treated by an analyst who distorted, misunderstood, and misinterpreted painful childhood events. In a successful second analysis, Dr. Schave was able to uncover forgotten memories of sexual abuse, buried from her conscious awareness for over 35 years. The author's emotional contact with the realities of her traumatic past led to a healing process, and as Dr. Schave understood and overcame her childhood experiences, she was better able to treat other survivors of sexual abuse.

Schave's story is vitally important to other survivors because it is a first person account that details the recovery process. In a compelling manner, she relates what she can remember of her abuse and more importantly, how she came to realize she was not a damaged person. Incest is taboo in our culture, making it a difficult subject to discuss. For this and other reasons, not much is known about how to treat survivors. With her hard-won personal and professional insights, Dr. Schave explores various treatment options, focusing on the crucial importance of sensitivity, honesty, and equal partnership between therapist and patient. She leads survivors of sexual abuse through phases of therapy that include the toleration of feelings, reduction of stress, uncovering forgotten memories, confrontation, and integrating the trauma. This is a unique and hopeful book. abuse is important for its first-person account


Praeger (June 23, 1989), 161 pages


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Early Adolescence and the Search for Self:

A Developmental Perspective

This study achieves a new perspective to this very creative and volatile time of life. The Schaves offer a better and more positive understanding of the developmental tasks of early adolescence and fully describes the states of mind, the struggles of self-differentiation and the coping styles used by this age group to protect against shame. In addition, they provide a systematic approach to treatment strategies, techniques and problem solving with adolescents and their families. This book is a trail-blazer on many grounds. . . . It makes a contribution to the literature on adolescence by offering an entirely new--and clinically highly relevant--explanation to a period of life when rapid changes in psychic organization can turn the tide either toward a wholesome development or toward serious derailments and psychopathology. Anna Ornstein

The first book to focus specifically on early adolescence, this study achieves a new perspective to this very creative and volatile time of life. Drawing from their professional experience and their private practices, the authors provide a stimulating integration of self psychology, Piaget's cognitive developmental theory, and affect theory. They also elaborate on several important ideas presented in the revolutionary book, The Interpersonal World of the Infant by Daniel N. Stern. This book offers a better and more positive understanding of the developmental tasks of early adolescence. The authors consider the adolescent's search for self identity and self esteem, a function of cognitive growth as well as affect attunement and self-differentiation. The cognitive and emotional search for selfhood further results in the development of defense mechanisms. This book provides a completely different perspective for mental health professionals. It fully describes the volatile states of mind, the struggles of self-differentiation and the coping styles used by this age group to protect against shame. In addition, it provides a systematic approach to treatment strategies, techniques and problem solving with adolescents and their families. Mental health professionals as well as parents of early adolescents will find Early Adolescence and the Search for Self a thought provoking study.

The reader is introduced to four main themes developed throughout this book: The primary of affects and affect attunement from infancy through early adolescence; the continued importance of parents in the development of self; The distinct states of mind experienced by early adolescents, and finally; Adolescence as the period of consolidation of cognitive thinking.


Praeger Publishers Inc. (January 1984), 176 pages


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Identity and Intimacy in Twins


The authors review major child development and psychoanalytic research on twins and, based on first-hand accounts by adult twins, draw their own conclusions about twin development.

The book is short, to the point, avoids psychological and analytic verbage, is based on personal knowledge--enlarged by model examples of clinical observational research.... [The] authors have contributed considerably to the literary treasures of analytic reporting.
Bulletin of the Southern California Psychoanalytic Institute and Society

More publications by Barbara Klein

  • Issues in School Reform (1985)
  • Curriculum Design (1984)

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