Theory and research based on the lived experiences of adult twins
Invaluable practices and insights for therapists, parents and family members of twins, and adult twins.
The development of how twins relate to each other and their single partners is explored through life stories and clinical examples in this telling study of twin interconnections. While the quality of a nurturing family life is crucial, Dr. Klein has found there are often issues with separation anxiety, loneliness, competition with each other, and finding friendships outside of twinship. When twin lives are entwined because of inadequate parenting and estrangement, twin loss is possible and traumatic, creating a crippling fear of expansiveness—an inability to be yourself. Therapists and twins seeking an understanding of twin relationships will find this clinically compelling book a valuable resource.
While the quality of a nurturing family life is essential, Dr. klein has found twins have issues with separation anxiety, loneliness, competition with each other and finding friendships outside of the twinship.
For Therapists AND Twins
Therapists and twins seeking an understanding of twin relationship will find this clinically compelling book a valuable resource.
The development of how twins relate to each and their single partners is explored through life stories and clinical examples in this telling study of twin interconnections.
Fear of Expansiveness
When twin lives are entwined because of inadequate parenting, estrangement and twin loss is possible and traumatic, creating a crippling fear of expansiveness and an inability to be themselves.
Dr. Barbara Klein, PhD, EdD
Barbara Klein is recognized as a national authority on the development of twins. Her research on the twin attachment informs other issues such as the importance of genetics, the environment, and parenting. She consults with adults twins as well as parents of twins who need guidance on reducing conflicts between twins and many other twin issues.
Barbara earned an undergraduate degree from the University of California at Berkeley, a Masters and Doctorate in Early Childhood Education from the University of Southern California at Los Angeles, and a Doctorate in Psychology from the California Graduate Institute in Los Angeles.
Dr. Barbara Klein, PhD, EdD
She has lectured around the country and in Canada, talking about twins and gifted children.
Barbara has written ten books in the field of developmental psychology and education, including her latest, Twin Dilemmas – Changing Relationships Throughout the Life Span (May 2017).
Some of her previous works include The Challenges of Gifted Children, Raising Gifted Kids: Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Exceptional Child Thrive, and Not All Twins Are Alike.
Dr. Klein is also a guest blogger at PsychologyToday.com.
"Twin Dilemmas: Changing Relationships Throughout the Life Span"
Are you a twin? Have you met a twin? Yes? No? Either way, you need to read Twin Dilemmas. It gives the best evidence based description of issues and applied suggestions for positive communication you can find. The book offers an example of systematic qualitative research based in identity types and transaction patterns. Written with clarity and accuracy, we experience “the world around the lives of twins” and learn from it. We get to look through the window and see the dilemmas lived by twins—and ourselves! This is a basic reference book for human science research and teaching.
Dr. Klein’s focus on employing intersubjectivity theory is timely and practical, and her unique expertise will add depth to her discussions...
Twins who have experienced less than ideal relationships with their twin will find comfort and hope in Dr. Klein’s new book “Twin Dilemmas.” This book will make twins feel less alone and will allow them to open up to the idea that many live with less-than-ideal memories of being a twin.
In this incredibly vulnerable book Dr. Klein opens our eyes to the joys and sadness of being a twin. She navigates through difficult case vignettes, and gives us the emotional and psychological implications of what these patients have been through.
Barbara's new book has defined twinship in a new light - one in which twin conflict can sometimes lead to estrangement. Dr. Klein has shown the challenges of living as a twin in a non-twin world such as loneliness, depression, anxiety, disappointment, separation anxiety, competition with each other, and finding friendships outside of twinship. These are all dilemmas lived by twins and the key issues to be addressed by mental health professionals who see twins. I loved this book - it is written with clarity for the layman, yet I can see it as a college textbook in behavioral science.
It is psychologically hard living as a twin within the non-twin world. Twins facing a wide range of psychological challenges, ranging across depression, loneliness, anxiety, confusion, and disappointment, or those simply seeking greater understanding, will find huge value in Dr Klein’s Twin Dilemmas. The culmination of 35 years of professional endeavour, this work continues the amazing expert service she delivers to twins worldwide – that of providing insight into what it means to be a twin.
The author developed a well-organized volume, and her focus and approach are presented in accessible form in this field. I believe that the author’s ideas are new and unique in the sense described as follows. (1) She beautifully describes distinctive features in the relationship of twins for each developmental stage. (2) She illustrates emotional con ict in the twin-ship which are organized around shared ego boundary and closeness (and distance). (3) She describes why and in what sense non-twins could not easily understand the delicate emotional balance between twins. (4) She demonstrates the key issues to be addressed by mental health professionals who see a twin patient.
A twin’s relationships are forever complicated. Barbara’s gifted mind combines poignant twin narratives with counseling insights, forming vivid depictions of the certain but changing struggles twins face over a lifetime. Twins/Multiples are rising in number, yet this deepest of human connections is still misguided by ill-equipped parents and support specialists, causing paralyzing outcomes. Twins will be grateful beneficiaries of ditching the cultural cuteness obsession for twins and assuming genuine responsibility for each twin’s uniqueness.
Non twins have no clue! The energy and complexity of the twin relationship is very different from usual sibling relationships. This book will be tremendously helpful for parents of twins who seek to nurture and understand their children. Easily accessible and well organized – there are new insights at every page turn.